Preparing for "13 Reasons Why" Season 2Posted by Kim Boyd on 5/15/2018
Many parents and staff were concerned about the Netflix show, "13 Reasons Why". This series portrayed very graphic and mature content about suicide, and other teen issues in a very glamorized way.
There are several reasons why this series may not be appropriate for teens to watch. The following article helps adults to have talking points about the show when approached by youth. It also provides students with information about why the series may be inappropriate for teen audiences. I hope you find these helpful.
Rather than focus on the 13 Reasons Why... Let's focus more on the 13 Reasons Why Not! Let's focus on the positiveness of resilency and hope rather than on suicide and violence. Here are 13 stories of individuals who found hope and reasons "why not" to commit suicide.
Below the Surface postersPosted by Kim Boyd on 5/1/2018
What are thos brightly colored posters all about? Well....District 49 has partnered with NAMI (National Allilance of Mental Illness) and the Colorado Crisis Services to provide mental health support to our high school students.
The posters, cards, and stickers were the result of teens in the region working with NAMI to come up with ideas of how to get high school students to access the mental health support lines. The teens suggested that a text option be added as this is their main means of communication. Many teens indicated that they did not want to call or talk to a mental health provider but would be more inclined to access the hotline if they could simply text. This is how the Below the Surface campaign began.
It is called Below the Surface because the teens indicated that on the surface they may seem like everything is OK. But, just below the surface their may be hurt, anxiety, depression, etc. The posters reflect some of the emotions and ideas the teens came up with. The posters are designed to be able to be seen from far away so that individuals don't have to stand right in front of the poster to get the number to text.
Teachers and other staff will have business type cards to provide students that match the format of the posters. Often, students will go to teachers, coaches, or security staff before accessing counseling services. When a staff member begins these types of conversations there is often concern about what to do or say. Staff also worry about student's needs after school and weekends. By having the cards to provide to students, staff can encourage the students to access the text number for more focused support.
When a student texts TALK to 38255, a masters level mental health provider who has been through hours of training is on the other end. They are availabe 24/7 and will text back immediately. They may ask for the school you attend but this is not required. However, it does help us to determine the effectiveness of the poster campaign. If the student wants to talk to a person rather than text, they can also call the Colorado Crisis line at 1-844-493-8255.
The purpose of this text line is to support students, and others, through any kind of difficulty. Can't sleep- text; Frustrated with your friends- text, Anxious about a test- text; Frustrated with parents- text; Suicidal- TEXT.
This service is not just for teens. Adults can access the line as well. So, if you are having difficulty and just need someone to talk to, sound off with, or just listen- Text TALK to 38255.
Be a RAKTIVISTPosted by Kim Boyd on 4/30/2018
Change the world one act of kindness at a time! It all starts with YOU! You can be the change that spreads throughout your entire school. By taking the challenge to show random acs of kindness, your example can spread to others and real change can occur.
The Random Acts of Kindess page has monthly missions for you and your friends to participate in. Kindness raids are occuring all over the world every month and you can be a part of it. You and your friends can share photos and stories of your missions and possibly earn prizes.
Here is the link below to become a RAKTIVIST.
Kindness Begins with ME!
The Waves of GriefPosted by Dr. Kim Boyd on 3/22/2018
Grief comes in waves. The waves come hard and fast at first and will lessen as time goes on.
When a tragedy happens, this is something I try to explain to those in grief. The pain can be very intense and some people even feel like there is a hole in their chest, a pit in their stomach, a weight on them, or a wide range of other feelings. Some people cry, some people are overly calm, and some may even joke to try to lighten the mood. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. However, we do need to be mindful of others who are grieving and respect their right to grieve.
Often, people can become territorial around grieving. The close friends can, at times, become frustated when people who were not as close to the person who died are crying and upset. However, these people too are entitled to their grief. Sometimes, when a person you know dies, it brings up all the other losses that you have experienced and this can bring on more intense grief reactions. Also, sometimes, although it may not have been obvious to others, the person who died may have had a great impact on an individual and they are grieving that loss. The point being, grief is not a competition or contest. Everyone has the right to grieve in their own way and we need to be respectful and caring about each other in a time of loss.
Often, people feel like they are being disrespectful of the person who died if they stop crying or are not outwardly grieving. They fear that if they stop thinking about the person or stop crying that somehow the person will be forgotten or they are not hurting "enough". This is when I remind the person that grief is like a wave. It will come hard and fast at first but will slow in intensity and frequency but will always be there. We do not need to chase grief, it will find us. It is important to take a break from grief and allow your body and your mind to get back to a somewhat normal routine. Grief will find you and sneak up in little moments. You may see something, hear a song, smell a familiar scent and you are right back into the memories and grief again.
Allow yourself time away from grief. Over the first few days and weeks, periodically try to do things that you enjoy to allow your body and mind time to heal. When grief does find you, allow yourself 15-20 minutes of being in the grief. Cry, scream, pound something if you need to. Let the feelings wash over you. It is important to feel but not to wallow. After you have gotten it out, get up and DO something to give yourself a break. The wave will find you again.
Although it may seem counter to the experience, some people in grief have thoughts of suicide. Their grief can be so intense that they think that they cannot manage it any longer and have thoughts of killing themselves. Others, may want to be with the person who died and think that killing themselves will let them see their loved one again. If you have thoughts of suicide in your grief, please seek out help! If you have a loved one who has signs of suicide such as: talking about suicide, giving away cherished objects, significant mood changes, or severing relationships, please have them seek out support and do not leave them alone. Below you will find links to crisis supports to help through these difficult times.
Let us all be mindful of each other in difficult times and help each other through our collective grief.
Colorado Crisis Hotline 1-844-493-8255
Text “TALK” to 38255
Kindness Begins with You!Posted by Kim Boyd on 3/13/2018
Many students are fearful and anxious about school shootings or other acts of violence in schools these days. How can we be safe at school and how an we prevent students from feeling so alienated that they want to do harm to others?
Well, there are many things we are trying to do and being kind is at the top of the list. There is a great website that provides ideas on how to do Random Acts of Kindness. There are ideas for schools, communities and even families. Wouldn't it be great to have a movement of kindness? YOU can get that going.
Check out the website and even come up with our own ideas on how to do a Random Act of Kindness everyday.
Random Acts of Kindness- Free CurriculumPosted by Kim Boyd on 10/16/2017
Are you always looking for a better way to support Social/Emotional Learning on your campus? Random Acts of Kindness is a FREE, research based curricuulm that provides step by step lesson plans and ideas to teach our students the 21st Century Skills they need to be successful students and adults.
Go to Random Acts of Kindness and click on the "Educators" tab to find curriculum that addresses grade level standards.